Katsi yangu yakandibatsira sei kubata nekushushikana

Kune akawanda mabhenefiti kune iyo pfungwa yekuve nekatsi, asi chimwe chezvakakosha ndechekuti iwe unowana wekugara wekugara. Yako furry shamwari-yakatendeuka-mhuri katsi inogara iripo uye inounza yakachengeteka uye inonyaradza kugara kune hupenyu hwevanhu vane kunetsekana. Hongu, mumwe munhu anogona kukohwa mabhenefiti ekurapa katsi (sekudanwa kunoitwa pet-assisted therapy) nekushanyira shamwari "yakarenda" ine furry, asi zviri nani kuve nemhuka yako wega mumba.

Kuzvidya mwoyo kunogona kubata munhu pazera ripi neripi, asi kwakaoma zvikuru kubata nako panguva yokuyaruka uye mumakore ouduku. Izvi ndizvo zvakanyorwa neAmerican Psychological Association: “Vechiduku vanotaura kuti mwero wavo wokushushikana mupfungwa mukati megore rechikoro unopfuura nokure wavanofunga kuti une utano (5,8 ichipikisana ne3,9 pachikero chezvikamu gumi) uye anopfuura mwero wepakati peavhareji wevakuru (10) ,5,8 .5,1 muvachiri kuyaruka ichienzaniswa neXNUMX muvakuru)”. Chii chingaitwa nemudzidzi kana mudzidzi anozvidya mwoyo kuti anzwe akadzikama uye aine chivimbo?

Heino nyaya yaKennedy, musikana ari kunetsekana. Nguva pfupi yadarika akatora katsi ndokuita kuti ibvumidzwe sekatsi yekurapa kuitira kuti aende nayo kukoreji sechikamu chechirongwa chake chekurapa kunetseka.

Kennedy naCarolina vanoenda kukoreji

Mukuyaruka, kuzvidya mwoyo kunogona kumuka nokuda kwezvikonzero zvakasiyana-siyana - kusiya chikoro, kuenda kure nevabereki vako, kutanga hupenyu hwekoroji - uye kubata nazvo hakusi nyore. Kennedy, murume achangopedza kudzidza paYunivhesiti yeNorth Carolina kuGreensboro, akaziva kuti aizoda rutsigiro paakapinda mukoreji. Akasiya imba yake, asi haagare mu dorm yakakomberedzwa nevamwe vatsva vanonzwa manzwiro akafanana uye vachipfuura nekuchinja kumwe chete. Kennedy anorenda imba isiri-yekambasi, uye kunyangwe vavakidzani vake variwo vadzidzi vekukoreji, anofanirwa kuwedzera kuyedza kuita shamwari itsva, nekuti hazvisi nyore kana munhu achinetseka.

Kennedy anoti: “Ndagara ndichinetseka, asi mumakore maviri apfuura kwakawedzera zvakanyanya. Ndisati ndawana katsi, ndaidhirowa mifananidzo, kuona TV kana kuti kumhanya kuti ndibate nefunganyo yangu.”

Pwere dzakawanda dzinovavarira kuzvimirira, asi mupwere dzinowanzova nefunganyo, kufara kwomufaro kunogona kusanganiswa nekangaidziko. Kennedy anoti: “Ndakatanga kufunga nezvokuwana katsi nokuda kwokurapa rinenge gore rapfuura, asi handina kuita ushingi kusvikira pakupera kwegore rangu rechikoro, pandakaona kuti kuchinja kukuru kwakanga kuri mberi kwangu. ... uye koreji “.

Saka akaenda kunzvimbo inochengeterwa mhuka kunotsvaga katsi inogona kunge iri mhuka yekurapa uye kumubatsira kubata nekunetseka kwake. Kune mhuka dzakawanda kwazvo mudzimba dzinoda imba zvekuti kusarudza chipfuyo chakakodzera kunogona kuve kwakaoma. "Ndakaziva kuti yaive katsi yangu pandakaona kupfava kwaaive uye matangiro aakaita kukwenya keji nechanza chake pandakananga kumusuwo." Kennedy akatumidza kitten Carolina, uye vakatanga kugadzirira hupenyu hwekoreji pamwechete.

Kuwana Karolina yakanga iri mhinduro yakakwana: zvikomborero zvekuva nekati mumba zviri pachena. Kennedy anoti: “Kufunganya kwangu kwakadzikira, kunyanya panguva yekuchinja kwekutanga hupenyu hwekuzvimirira. Ndinoda katsi yangu. Ndiwo manzwiro akanakisa munyika kuuya kumba mushure mezuva refu uye ndichipinda mukamuri yangu ndokuona iyi mhuka yakanaka ine mvere yakarara pamubhedha wangu. " Zvakanakira kuva nekatsi mumba kuti unyaradze manzwiro ako akaora mwoyo zvakakosha.

Zvakanakira katsi kurapa

Kennedy akabva anyoresa Carolina sekatsi yekurapa. Kurapa kwechipfuwo kunobatsira kune ese mazera, uye sezvakaitwa naKennedy, zvakanyanya kukosha panguva yekushushikana yekoreji makore. Achiziva pachake kukura kwakaita Caroline mukurwisa kuzvidya mwoyo, Kennedy anoda kugovera chipo ichi nevamwe. Kunyangwe musikana asina hurongwa chaihwo hwekuunza Karolina munharaunda sekatsi yekurapa, dzimwe nguva anokoka shamwari kuti dzizorore uye dzitambe nekatsi yake. "Ndinokoka vanhu (ivo vandinoziva) vari mumamiriro ezvinhu anonetsa kunzvimbo yangu kuti vagare nekatsi yangu. Iye ndiye akanakisa boka resimba, uye rinowanzofadza vanhu! Handisati ndafunga kumuendesa kunorapwa kunze kwemba, sezvo achiri mudiki.” Zvichida mune ramangwana, Kennedy achakwanisa kuendesa chipfuyo chake kumusha unochengeterwa vakwegura kana kuchipatara chevana kuti afadze vamwe vanhu.

Kutora katsi yaive sarudzo yehurongwa kuna Kennedy. Munhu ane kuzvidya mwoyo anova akadzikama paanoisa pfungwa dzake pane zvinodiwa nevamwe, uye mhuka inovaraidza inokanganisa zvikuru. Zvisinei, dzimwe nguva basa rakawandisa rinogona kukonzera kufunganya. Kennedy akasarudza kuwana katsi yekurapa pamusoro pembwa muchikamu nekuda kwechiyero chebasa rinodiwa. Anoti, “Zviri nyore zvikuru kushandisa katsi yokurapa pane kuita imbwa nokuti katsi dzinozvimiririra uye handifaniri kunetseka nezvadzo pandinoenda kukirasi kana kuti ndanonoka kubuda.”

Nyaya yaKennedy naCarolina haina kujairika. Imwe yezvakanakira katsi mumba kugona kwayo kudzikamisa varidzi vayo. Munhu anotambura nekufunganya anofara chero rubatsiro, kunyanya kubva kune wake purring shamwari.

Kana iwe uri kufunga kuwana katsi kuti igadzirise kunetseka, zvakanaka! Nekudzidziswa kudiki uye nerudo rwakawanda, katsi yako ichaita kuwedzera kukuru kumhuri yako. Uye yeuka: kana ukawana kati, rugare ruchauya muhupenyu huviri kamwechete - iwe pachako uye muhupenyu hwekati iri kutsvaga imba.

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